After decades with the same person, even the most passionate may feel that the romance is dying off. Of course I still deeply love my significant other but perhaps that special ‘oomph’ has dwindled down into a ‘ho hum’?
Wouldn’t it be terrific to get back that ‘head over heels in love’ feeling I once had? Maybe not forever, but having another taste of it may just keep the spark alive that much longer.
Since I can’t ‘meet again’ there may be other ways to get that feeling back.
Reread Old Love Letters/Cards
Sometimes it’s hard to remember the exciting days. Putting myself there emotionally is difficult to do as I am now deeply entrenched in the here and now. A brilliant way to get those old romantic feelings flooding back in is to reread the cards and letters my spouse wrote me in the early days. I also kept a journal during that time and rereading it also helped me reconnect with that first flush of passion I once felt. Once I have walked down memory lane I found those old feelings surging again.
Look At Him In A New Light
I remember when I first fell in love. Just the mere sight of him was enough to get that ‘butterflies in my stomach’ feeling and all I wanted to do was be with him. I decided to practice looking at my significant other the way new lovers look at each other. I thought back to what initially attracted me. I concentrated on those attributes and remembered why I was first attracted to him. I began to flirt with him again. I began to see him as I once did when my desire was so strong. That meant I didn’t look at him as the person who fixes the clogged toilet or does the lawn maintenance-I looked at him as the passionate person I couldn’t keep my eyes off of.
Look At Myself In A New Light
I remember what I used to look like when I first fell in love. Although I can’t go back in time, I can make some steps to improve on my own appearance. Whether that means experimenting with new make-up, getting my hair done or just going out and buying a new outfit (lingerie works as well. I checked out: http://www.lingeriecanada.com/ ). If I take care of myself and make an effort with my appearance it often means I will have more confidence and am able to share this new exciting attitude with my significant other.
Of course that ‘just met’ feeling only happens once but with some concentrated effort I can try to recapture that feeling which may bring that passionate spark back into my relationship.
